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How to Speed Read People
The art of reading people is much more of a science! You too can learn this skill, which will allow you to know what people are thinking without them saying a word, and even predict their behavioral patterns.Not a generic book on looking at facial expressions or trying to see if someone is lying.HOW TO SPEED READ PEOPLE isn’t about surface things. It’s about all the habits, tics, and ways of thinking that can show you someone’s intentions, personality, background, and goals. People are giving out signs all the time, you just have to know what to look for!This book is a mixture of behavioral psychology, with superior observational skills honed from years of experience. Everything is rooted in science, rest assured.Discover the true meaning of emotional and social intelligence – and what you’ve been missing.Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience.Find the shortcuts to read and predict a stranger’s behavior. How to read someone’s entire emotional spectrum Predicting people’s most common desires and motivations How someone's childhood context defines all of their adult behaviors Pain, pleasure, and how to predict exactly how someone will act and react Observations and reverse storytelling Subtext, tells, tics, and the small things that make you emotionally intelligent
I Feel Heard
The most underrated relationship skill that will transform every single interaction."I feel heard" - what a magical sentence to hear from someone. It represents so many positive emotions. This is something we can create on demand. Let's learn how.Instantly understand what people want to hear and what they care about.This book is about understanding healthy relationships and what they are based on. Communication is tough, and we all have unhelpful tendencies. You'll read about what you're doing, identify it, and re-direct your efforts into building bridges rather than walls.You’ll learn actionable techniques and frameworks to have the most productive conversations of your life - ones that will walk away with people praising how empathetic you are. Most importantly, you will gain profound insights on how to reprogram yourself into a natural communicator.Conflicts won't arise if people simply feel heard and validated.Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. His struggles in his early relationships has inspired him to unravel practical ways to cultivate meaningful interactions.Raise the standard for your relationships.Establish vulnerable, fulfilling and satisfying relationships.•Normalizing a non-judgmental perspective•The 6 levels of validation and why you cannot skip a single step•How couples therapists run their sessions, and how you can steal their blueprint•Active listening and reflecting techniques•Toxic positivity and the avoidance of actual validation•Conflict, disagreement, and listening to hear and understand•Active constructive responses and how they get people to open up instantly
Small Talk that Doesn’t Suck
No one likes 'networking', and the process of meeting new people can sometimes be like pulling teeth.How are you, how many siblings do you have, did you have a commute, how long have you lived here, where did you go to university...?! YIKES.Let's change small talk into real talk that leads to rapport and deeper friendships.SMALL TALK THAT DOESN'T SUCK - the title tells you all you need to know. How to go from a stranger to a deeper connection extremely quickly, while avoiding most of the awkwardness and useless topics that are inherent.You'll understand what to say, how to say it, and when to say it. Extremely specific guidelines and prompts in this book to keep people engaged and opening up in any conversation.What to say and when to say to be likable, connect, and make a memorable impression.Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. He suffered for years as a shy introvert and managed to boil human interaction down to a science - first for himself, and now for you.NO MORE: interview mode, awkward silence, or struggling to hold people’s attention.- Reading and working with different types of conversational energy and flow- Adding salt and acid to an interaction - what and how?!- Why and when you should mention your flaws, and how they are like conversational bait- What is "medium" talk and how to skip directly to it- Six guidelines to the art of asking amazing questions- Storytelling 101- How to use interruptions to your advantage?!Become someone who is magnetic and who can make new friends in any situation.Simple conversation is the gatekeeper to friendships, your dream career, romance, and overall happiness. The ability to connect with anyone is an underrated superpower. People will be more drawn to you without even knowing why, and never again people will people be bored talking to you. You’ll never run out of things to say when you master these conversation tactics.
The Science of Social Intelligence: 45 Methods to Captivate People, Make a Powerful Impression, and Subconsciously Trigger Social Status and Value
Scientifically-proven methods to create connection with anyone you meet. This is your blueprint for social success. Humans are spectacularly predictable. Through decades of research, scientists have shown consistent patterns in human behavior and thought that can lead us to very predictable outcomes. In other words, there are genuine ways to forge better relationships that take advantage of human psychology and behavioral patterns. And now, you are going to learn some major ones. Learn the elements of magnetic presence and charisma. Create unconscious social value and status. In The Science of Social Intelligence, you'll have over 40 studies, new and old, broken down in a way that answers the question, “How can I use this information to improve my everyday social life?” You can rely on real findings from the fields of psychology, cognitive science, neuroscience, and behavioral economics, rather than one person’s anecdotal advice. Learn why conventional socializing advice is flat-out wrong or incomplete. This book is an in-depth look at the concept of being socially intelligent, maximizing the social opportunities you are given, and leveraging your unique strengths to have the relationships you want. In a time where most advice takes the form of “make more eye contact” and “smile more,” this book stands out.This book pairs human behavioral data and findings with the insight and emotional intelligence of Patrick King, sought-after social skills coach and internationally bestselling author. The result is half textbook, half field guide for whatever your social goals may be.
The Introvert Survival Guide
Feel like you’re trying doing a bad impression of an extrovert, or you’re a “party pooper” because you turn down invites? If you have (1) felt massive relief at cancelled plans, (2)had mild to huge annoyance in huge gatherings of strangers, and (3) want to figure out how to socialize better and more effectively without social fatigue, this book is for you – written by someone exactly like you. The Introvert Survival Guide is going to shed light on exactly how you function, and how to use your tendencies to your advantage. Social survival tactics for your most demanding social obligations. The Introvert Survival Guide takes you on a tour of self-discovery, and allows you to understand your exact wiring and why you dread things that other people seem to look forward to the most. You’ll be armed with specific and actionable survival and party tactics to get the most out of your social energy and make an impact every time.Make the best impression even when you’re socially exhausted (especially if you’ve been told you look “unapproachable”). Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. More importantly, he’s also a massive introvert and struggled with what society told him to be for years, until he discovered how to make his introversion an advantage in his life. In this book, he will teach you how to feel completely at ease with yourself, while being the social powerhouse you want to be. Exactly where to go, how to engage, and what to say for deeper connections. •Understanding your biology.•How to survive and thrive in any raging party.•Charging your social battery strategically.•The exact environments you thrive in and strengths you possess. Find your solitude in our loud world. •Escape any obligation or interaction gracefully.•How to implement “introvert life design.”•Interpersonal dynamics with friends, co-workers, and lovers.
The Confidence Formula
Stop making decisions based on fear of failure, rejection, anxiety, and judgment. Life is full of possibilities, but can you take advantage of them? Gain the confidence to be all that you can be.Not just “fake it ‘til you make it” or “just smile more.”The Confidence Formula is filled with real, actionable advice for your life TODAY. It’s not generic, borderline useless advice you can read in any blog post online. This book will take you on a deep dive into the depth of confidence, self-perception, and the psychology of confidence – understand yourself so you can break through your mental barriers.Everything from psychology, biology, and even cognitive behavioral therapy is referenced in giving you the tools to feel more invincible on a daily basis.Finally feel comfortable in your own skin and become your own source of confidence.Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and sought-after social skills coach and trainer. He was also one of the plumpest children you’ve ever seen, and understands the pains and processes of confidence like few others. This book was written by someone who knows exactly what you’re facing and how you’re hurting.Become bolder, more fearless, and good enough. Stop thinking about the “what ifs” in your life.Confidence will turn your life into a series of endless opportunities. Your goals, your social circle, your relationships, your career, and your life – confidence is the key. Confidence creates the life you want and lets you smash through goals, while making sure you never feel invisible, waste your potential, or feel paralyzed from anxiety.Quiet the voice in your head and live how you want to. Stop feeling so restricted.
Conversation Tactics
Beyond simple small talk: what to say and when to say it to be likable, connect, and make a memorable impression. Actionable and applicable verbal maneuvers for just about every phase of conversation - good and bad. Whatever your conversational goal, you’ll find tactics to put you in a winning position - in a literal sense with arguments, and in a figurative sense with making friends. You can never underestimate the power of a simple conversation. NO MORE: interview mode, awkward silence, or struggling to hold people’s attention. Conversation Tactics is a unique read. It provides guidance for every social situation you’ll come across, from what should I say, hello, how was your weekend, I disagree with you, stop doing that, here’s a story, goodbye. You’ll find 100% actionable nuanced and subtle tactics to salvage your worst situations and enhance your best - all field-tested and proven through thousands of conversations. In addition to shrewd insights to make conversation flow, you’ll learn to win arguments and diffuse dirty tricks. Learn the art of verbal self-defense - and offense. Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. He suffered for years as a shy introvert and managed to boil human interaction down to a science - first for himself, and now for you. He is without doubt a uniquely qualified individual to teach you these tactics. How to assert yourself, stand your ground, and argue with the best. •How to tell captivating stories and what to actually focus on.•Four ways to warm yourself up and prepare for even the most unpredictable conversations.•How to say goodbye (or good riddance) gracefully.•Instantly setting a tone of friendship and openness with strangers.
The Social Skills Toolkit
Bestselling author Patrick King brings you four of his acclaimed books in one volume - to enhance your relationships, revitalize your social life, relate to people better, and bring more overall joy to your life.Patrick King has thousands of 5-star reviews, many from mental health professionals and psychologists, praising his insight, approach, and actionable advice. Start your journey now and click BUY NOW.Book 1: The Science of Reading People: How to Understand What People Are Really Saying and Why- 10 factors that prevent us from perceiving someone, and how to prevent them- Actionable exercises for taking people's perspectives and stepping outside of your own head- Four personality types and how to categorize people in quick and easy ways- Understanding the four functions of behavior and how to spot them- Listening for specific word and linguistic choicesBook 2: How to Speak Effectively: Influence, Engage, & Charm-A ladder of inference to use in any social interaction-Five types of communication tones and why you're using the wrong one-How to use your words like an artist with paint-Asking the right questions and methods for better listening-So-called trash words and how to eliminate them from your vocabulary-Getting through tough conversations with ease and graceBook 3: MASSIVE CHARISMA: Small Talk, Charm, Likability, and How to Succeed With People•How to demonstrate your value, confidence, and powerful presence.•How to tailor your communication and speak to individuals.•How to listen and validate effectively.•The top charisma mistakes people unknowingly commit.Book 4: Make Friends Easily: How to Charm and Connect in Record Time- Understand a 5-part friendship formula that you must use- Master "reciprocal curiosity" to unlock people- How to help people "think out loud"- A question framework that can work in any situation- The rule of 3 in conversations
Think Like a Psychologist
Understand personality traits, character, emotions, and values through pure observation or simple questions. Analyzing people in a flash - it’s not easy, and it’s not simple. But that’s because you don’t know the tools inside this book. People give us more information than they realize. Learn to decipher all of it to further your goals. Think Like a Psychologist is about working backwards from the person in front of you. You will learn to draw conclusions about people’s emotions, behavior, past experiences, and overall personality and temperament based on small yet important pieces of information. From this analysis, you will gain enormous insight into the people around you, new and old. You may not be able to read people’s minds, but armed with knowledge about behavioral tendencies, developmental psychology, motivation and personality theories, and nature versus nurture, you will always possess deeper comprehension that others may not even have about themselves. And of course, there is an element of lie detection. Understanding others is an opening to understanding yourself and self-awareness. Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. He has sold over a million books. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. Analyze people for better social interactions, less conflict, more likability, and the ability to open people up. •Learn the most widespread personality evaluation methods.•Unlock the power of analyzing simple answers to simple questions.•How motivation theories drive our behaviors.•Read people’s emotions and social cues.•Scientific body language and facial expressions. Understand people inside and out; quickly upgrade your emotional and social intelligence.
How to Establish Boundaries
Do you feel like you have to cater to others, and you don’t even know why? It’s time to stand up for yourself. Who is making the decisions in your life? There is a fine line between being generous and giving, and being too self-sacrificing. It’s time to find that line and enforce it. How to manage negativity and say no. Stop being a pushover. Establishing Boundaries will give you a diagnosis and breakdown of the beliefs that keep you under the control and manipulation of others. As we learn more about ourselves, we will pick apart our fears and insecurities, and come to a wide variety of tools to take back your life.This book will help you will immediately start to understand how your life should be -- free of obligation, fear, pressure, and pain. Never again will you fall prey to such disempowering beliefs. Stop caving to pressure, obligation, fear, and guilt. Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real-life experience. Stop lighting yourself on fire to keep others warm. -Porous boundaries, flexible boundaries, and effective boundaries.-The proper language, phrases, and approach to protect yourself.-How to deal with toxic people and vampires.-Extracting yourself from bad situations.-How to make sure that your intentions match your actions. Know your rights, Set your standards. Become your own master. Imagine a life where you set your own rules and only do what you truly want to do. A life where you are immune to outside pressures, and don’t feel responsible for people’s emotions and feelings. A life where you are free to speak, think, and do what you want. Learn to defend yourself. Scroll up the click the BUY NOW button.
The Art of Self-Awareness
Equal parts scientific, philosophical, and practical. Become your best self by first defining it.The Art of Self-Awareness takes you on a journey – not to an exotic destination, but inwards. It’s perilous, scary, and uncomfortable, but the end rewards will be fantastic. Self-awareness is not simply knowing your name; it’s knowing what makes you happy, what makes you sad, and the underlying beliefs and values that create those emotions.Most people look externally for answers to their problems, but that’s like putting a band-aid on top of a pothole. Everything that makes your life good or bad comes from within and it’s time to finally learn what lies beneath.The toughest skill of all: metacognition, which is thinking about your thinking. Learn the keys to self-introspection and how a simple set of questions can answer your deepest problems. The three levels of adult self-awareness and development. Values, goals, beliefs, and how to orient yourself. Why self-awareness is actually social awareness, and how it can help you socially Empathy and social intelligence The keys to avoiding self-delusion and self-sabotage.Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real-life experience.Self awareness is social awareness. Know thyself and your relationships will benefit tenfold.Self-awareness is not just a journey about yourself, it involves the people around you. Understanding how your own emotions, values, and beliefs work will finally allow you to truly empathize with your friends, family, and significant other.To get to Point B, you must know what Point A is. Read this book to find your starting point, your end goal, and what must happen in between!
Enlightenment Now
INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER A NEW YORK TIMES NOTABLE BOOK OF 2018ONE OF THE ECONOMIST'S BOOKS OF THE YEAR"My new favorite book of all time." --Bill Gates If you think the world is coming to an end, think again: people are living longer, healthier, freer, and happier lives, and while our problems are formidable, the solutions lie in the Enlightenment ideal of using reason and science. By the author of the new book, Rationality. Is the world really falling apart? Is the ideal of progress obsolete? In this elegant assessment of the human condition in the third millennium, cognitive scientist and public intellectual Steven Pinker urges us to step back from the gory headlines and prophecies of doom, which play to our psychological biases. Instead, follow the data: In seventy-five jaw-dropping graphs, Pinker shows that life, health, prosperity, safety, peace, knowledge, and happiness are on the rise, not just in the West, but worldwide. This progress is not the result of some cosmic force. It is a gift of the Enlightenment: the conviction that reason and science can enhance human flourishing.Far from being a naïve hope, the Enlightenment, we now know, has worked. But more than ever, it needs a vigorous defense. The Enlightenment project swims against currents of human nature--tribalism, authoritarianism, demonization, magical thinking--which demagogues are all too willing to exploit. Many commentators, committed to political, religious, or romantic ideologies, fight a rearguard action against it. The result is a corrosive fatalism and a willingness to wreck the precious institutions of liberal democracy and global cooperation. With intellectual depth and literary flair, Enlightenment Now makes the case for reason, science, and humanism: the ideals we need to confront our problems and continue our progress.