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When Love Hurts
“Every woman who is struggling to understand the mistreatment she is experiencing in her relationship should begin by reading [this] wonderful book.”—Lundy Bancroft, author of Why Does He Do That? What do you do when the one you love hurts you? Have you been searching for answers to difficult questions about your relationship? Do you feel confused about why your partner seems loving one moment and angry the next? Summoning the courage to ask these challenging questions can seem daunting. You know something is wrong in your relationship, but you are not sure what. If you are beginning to wonder if you are experiencing abuse, this book can offer you support, information, and, most of all, hope as you look for answers. Written by two women with a wealth of experience supporting victims of abuse, When Love Hurts introduces exercises and resources to help you make sense of your relationship, addressing all forms of abuse, including verbal, emotional, financial, sexual, and physical. This practical guidebook is a supportive and nonjudgmental friend to those who don’t know where to turn and is filled with stories from women who have been in the same position. By drawing on your own wisdom and that of the many others who have shared your experience, When Love Hurts can help you find the answers you have been looking for.
Is He Cheating On Me?
Sometimes a woman just knows that something is wrong in her relationship. Something has changed and you suspect infidelity, but you're not sure if your suspicions are valid or the result of paranoia. The statistics about cheating show that you’re not so crazy to be concerned. The fact is, you either know someone who cheated, have heard about someone who got cheated on, have been cheated on, or have been a cheater yourself. The likelihood of being a victim of cheating is not 100%, but it’s high enough that you should be prepared with enough information about the tell-tale signs of a cheating partner in order to protect your greatest investment: Yourself. No one wants to waste their precious time and emotions on the wrong person. Here are over 160 common signs your guy might be cheating on you.
Trauma and Recovery
In this groundbreaking book, a leading clinical psychiatrist redefines how we think about and treat victims of trauma. A "stunning achievement" that remains a "classic for our generation." (Bessel van der Kolk, M.D., author of The Body Keeps the Score).Trauma and Recovery is revered as the seminal text on understanding trauma survivors. By placing individual experience in a broader political frame, Harvard psychiatrist Judith Herman argues that psychological trauma is inseparable from its social and political context. Drawing on her own research on incest, as well as a vast literature on combat veterans and victims of political terror, she shows surprising parallels between private horrors like child abuse and public horrors like war. Hailed by the New York Times as "one of the most important psychiatry works to be published since Freud," Trauma and Recovery is essential reading for anyone who seeks to understand how we heal and are healed.
Why Will No One Play with Me?
2020 BEST BOOK AWARD WINNER, PARENTING & FAMILY CATEGORY (Awarded by American Book Fest)NAMED ONE OF THE 100 BEST ADHD BOOKS OF ALL TIME (BookAuthority) MOM'S CHOICE AWARD WINNER From renowned parent expert Caroline Maguire, Why Will No One Play with Me? is a groundbreaking program that has helped thousands of children struggling with social skills to make friends, find acceptance, and have a happy childhood. Every parent wants their child to be okay—to have friends, to be successful, to feel comfortable in his or her own skin. But many children lack important social and executive functioning skills that allow them to navigate through the world with ease. In-demand parenting expert and former Hallowell Center coach Caroline Maguire has worked with thousands of families dealing with chronic social dilemmas, ranging from shyness to aggression to ADHD, and more. In this groundbreaking book named one of the "Best ADHD Books of All Time" by BookAuthority, she shares her decade-in-the-making protocol—The Play Better Plan—to help parents coach children of any background to connect with others and make friends. Children of all ages—truly, from Kindergarten to college age—will gain the confidence to make friends and get along with others, using tools such as:*Social Sleuthing: learn to pay attention to social cues*Post-Play Date Huddles: help kids figure out what to look for in a friendship*Reflective Listening: improve your child's relationship with their peers With compassion and ease, this program gives parents a tangible, easy-to-follow guide for helping kids develop the executive function and social skills they need to thrive.
You Were Not Born to Suffer Sampler
An exclusive free sample in this life-changing book Blake D Bauer explains why depression, addiction, physical illness, unfulfilling work and relationship problems are caused by years of hiding your true emotions, denying your life purpose and living in fear. Having already helped thousands of people around the world find lasting solutions that conventional medicine, psychiatry or religion couldn't offer, You Were Not Born to Suffer will show you how to free yourself from the destructive thoughts, habits and situations that are stopping you from being happy and well. In simple practical steps you will learn how to slow down and create a healthier relationship to yourself that is based on acceptance, kindness, honesty and self-worth. You will also find out how to transform the stress, anxiety and insecurity that result from constantly trying to please others into lasting confidence, self-respect and inner peace. Whether it's negative thinking, financial worry, loneliness, guilt or self-doubt that's holding you back, Blake Bauer's words will move you to take better care of yourself, heal old pain and courageously move forward. If you are ready to enjoy your life, feel passionate about your work and create fulfilling relationships, this book will support you to live authentically, love wholeheartedly and finally value yourself enough to put everyday health and happiness at the centre of your life.
Shimmer (Strictly Come Dancing Novels)
A 100% official Strictly Come Dancing novel, featuring the dancers, stars and judges you love! What if an ordinary girl's Strictly dreams became a glittering reality? Meet Amanda Roberts: a production runner on the set of Strictly Come Dancing, desperate to fit into the world of the dazzling and the beautiful. And when she discovers all the backstage drama, Amanda wonders if she is tough enough to survive. But then things start to change... And incredibly she finds more GLITZ, more MAGIC and more ROMANCE than she could possibly have imagined. Prepare to be dazzled as you tango into the glamour and mayhem of the world behind the glitter ball. PREPARE TO BE SHIMMERED!
Empress in Hiding
She thought that the favor of the emperor would keep her safe. She was wrong.At the center of power and privilege, Daiyu is now in more danger than she ever imagined. No longer able to hide among the countless palace ladies, as empress, Daiyu cannot escape the jealousy and scheming of the other women who would do anything to take her place.But that is not the only danger Daiyu faces.Foreign enemies besiege Peking, sacking the city and forcing the imperial family to flee for their lives. War changes everything.With enemies lurking in every corner, Daiyu, the girl from the streets, must step into a role she was never born to play.All of China depends on it.
Return to Summerhouse
With her shining gift for “exquisite and enchanting” (Bookpage) storytelling, Jude Deveraux sweeps readers away in a breathtaking follow-up to her beloved New York Times bestseller, The Summerhouse—where a marvelous new adventure awaits.Magic most definitely resides in the Maine summerhouse where the mysterious Madame Zoya has granted the innermost wishes of its visitors. Now, three women have come to this special place with one thing in common: a painful past they would each like to rewrite. Amy, who hides a heartbreaking loss behind her seemingly perfect marriage and family...Faith, a widow in her thirties whose deepest grief is for a man from years ago...and Zoe, an artist shunned by her hometown for reasons she doesn’t know, after a traumatic night erased her memory. With their mystical powers, Madame Zoya and her sister Primrose are about to transport the trio to eighteenth-century England to alter Amy’s ancestry. But although surprises await each of them, will stepping back in time bring the women the happy endings they seek?
Trauma Bonding
'If your relationship is so bad, why don't you just leave them?''If you were in such an abusive relationship, why did you stay with them for so long?''If you knew you were in a relationship with such a toxic person, why didn't you ask people for help?'If you've ever been asked these questions, aside from being ignorant and hurtful, you'll know it's beyond frustrating. The answer to the above questions, whilst it's complex and often confusing, can be given with two words: trauma bonded. If you find you're in a relationship that you know is so toxic that it's crushing your very being, but you can't bring yourself to leave, you may be in the clutches of a tight trauma bond. If you're constantly feeling on edge, forever working to appease your spouse to little avail and like you're constantly being chipped away at with their abusive behavior, then I can understand how emotionally shattering it feels to live this way. If in the same breath, it breaks your heart to even consider leaving them because you can't imagine life without them, then I can understand that feeling too; because I was trauma bonded to my abusive ex.From my own personal experience and from the experiences other survivors have opened up to me about, this book will cover the following:- What trauma bonding really is- The 7 stages that lead to you becoming trauma bonded- The parallels that Stockholm syndrome has with trauma bonding- The 5 stages you go through when you come to accept you're trauma bonded- The cognitive dissonance a trauma bond can cause- Breaking free from the traumatic bondThis book will also include my own experiences and I'll draw upon those to help you really understand trauma bonding, and let you know that you're not alone in being shackled by this emotionally crippling bond. More importantly, this book will help you understand that the invisible chain that tethers you to your abuser can be broken.
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Having dreams is .... normal.We also see people having clear goals ... and it's quite interesting... looking like a more organised person which is dreaming.... on and on and on.And the truth is ... that the human being could be defined as a machine ... that is always coming up with new and new desires.I look into my past ... and i see myself saying in front of the Universe ... i want that and that ... and that.And ... i can't stop myself ... even if i know that same as Budha said ... the desire itself is the source of all the human pain.I smile realising how i've wasted my life chasing for on million contradictory desires.... but also honestly realising ... this is a non ending story.So ... starting a weird process of self therapy... analysing all those desires ... especially the ones that obsessed myself ... I've finally concluded that in fact ... i want more to "taste" those desires.It was like i loved Rolls Royce... and i wanted to drive such an amazing car ... but i did not really wanting to pay such a huge price for this car .... the maintenance ... the taxes …the insurance etc.In fact ... all i wanted was to ... drive it ... for a while ... and enjoy the sensation of doing it.And the list of similar desires ... was so damn long ...So ... i wanted that ... and that and that ... hoping in fact that ... i'll get some sensations... which will bring me nice vibes into my soul.But .... It was only one problem.I did not really wanted to ... pay the price.Almost ... for any of those desires which were dominating obsessively my existence.Time was passing ... and i was somehow ending all the time ... being sad and disappointed.... cause my desires did not became real.Not all of them ... but many.But ... i've also noticed with some of those weird desires which i had .... that they were not what I've imagined.It was indeed all ... illusory.I could simple try and test all ... simple paying a price ... like renting the Rolls ... and see if i really want such a car.It was not that i could afford it ... but i could try to taste it ... by paying a minimum price for that ... only to understand better if that was a good path to follow or not.I had to insert ... a coin.But i was not really ready to do it.Yes ... not even pay ... a vey little price for it.I was just dreaming ... so nicely pretending i have clear goals with my life ... but all i was doing was to allow being dominated by those illusory desires.And this moment when i've understood i have only 3 choices... my life changed.Firstly ... I could ... stop dreaming.Or i could pay the price of getting that desire ... and stop being so stupid ... believing that a great dream ... costs 2 pennies.Or ... i could simple .... "taste" a little bit that desire .... see if i really want it ... and then decide if i delete that obsession from my mind ... or not.So ... all was about ... insert coin ... paying the price for it ... or .... simply stop myself dreaming with my eyes opened... like an idiot.
THINK … DEEPER
Have you even asked yourself why so many people in this world are living an unhappy life?!But what about you?!Are you a happy person ... or not?!And if not ... have you ever thought why?!Is just a simple question, same as you would ask yourself why you don’t know skying ... if you never took lessons for that?!You see ... truth be told ... in school we’ve learnt lots of things, including complicated math formulas, languages that we will never use in life, chemistry issues that will not serve us with nothing etc etc ... but no one ever bothered to teach us at least a short list with things to do .. for having a beautiful .. and why not ... an amazing life.I mean .. we can easily understand that we can’t paint if we haven’t learnt the art of painting, we can’t sing piano without a little bit of help came by a piano teacher etc etc ... but when it comes to life ... to our private lives in fact ... we simple can’t find the path for a non ending great story.There is always something that is ruining our vibes.We find ... lots of silly problems ... and we actually allow them to disturb us from staying on the right spiritual frequency ... and in fact ... enjoy life.But ... let me tell you the truth ... i did the same for years ... many, many years in a row.My life was kind of an emotional dance ... between good and bad vibes ... but i could not find a way of stopping it.I even named it ... in a silly way ... the dance of emotions.Until one day when i realized that this nonsense journey back and forth ... from good to bad energies ... was ruining my inner soul.I knew i had to stop it, but i felt i had no control over the process.It all looked like i was in a prison with invisible walls ... and i had no escape at all.I started to meditate.More and more.Understood that i need to look deeper ... why i have this silly balance of duality ... if i want a beautiful life.This is when i started to look deeper and deeper ... analyzing and defining my life from on million perspectives.In the end .. by talking to myself a lot, but also writing my thoughts ... i somehow became my own therapist.I invite you in a journey of discovering the way of thinking deeper ... what life is really about ... and how we can remove the negative elements from our timeline ... but also replace them with beautiful things that might bring us an existance fulfilled with eternal great vibes.
DISCONNECTING ... ... seen as un amazing trick for a beautiful life
Disconnect ... connect ... disconnect again ... re connect ... seen as a circle of life.I try to understand life.But ... it's probably an illusory desire.Most probably ... the real truth is that i want to know how can i totally disconnect from all what means negativity.Totally disconnect from .... unhappiness ... and all what makes me feel ... depressed..... my anger, my frustrations, my envy, my jealousy, my .... all this large spectrum of negative feelings and emotions.And ... i keep meditating.I keep ... exploring.I pretend i want to know what this universe is ... but all i want is to find out how i can be happy ... or at least eliminate this sadness from my soul.And more i analyse... more i feel that it is all about ... disconnecting.Cause .... yes ... i can't stop being angry if i don't disconnect from the reasons why ... i am angry.I can't stop myself be jealous ... if i don't disconnect from the reasons why i am jealous.I can't stop myself ... envy someone ... if i don't totally disconnect from that person.I can't stop being furious ... if I don't disconnect from the reasons why i am furious.But ... i am too illogical to be able to stop being dominated by ... sadness.Yes ... too illogical.I could simple keep in mind those ideas ... and the moment when i feel any negative vibe ... try to understand right away why i feel that ... and what i have to disconnect from.It is simple.But ... maybe too simple for an idiot as myself.Fortunately ... being my own therapist ... I continue this charade of pretending i am sort of a philosopher or psychologist … trying in find to find out the reasons of my unhappiness.And ... i keep analysing.More ... and more ...The funny thing is that ... today ... i trend to believe that a beautiful life is a lot related on the ability of being disconnected ... from negativity.Cause ... life itself is beautiful.So ... maybe i should become more conscious ... on the stage of life.Feel better ... the energies ... and be more selective ...